I don't see how I can cater for that as I can't make myself look like Katy Perry if I just don't! At least if he was watching porn I could try and copy some of the scenarios! But it just seems to be about looking at beautiful women. The only things that do seem to excite him sexually is pictures of certain celebrity women (not porn, he doesn't seem to like actual porn, just pictures of them in short skirts, lingerie etc or just films with certain actresses). I don't think there's any problem with my technique, as my previous partners always seemed more than happy with it, I've learned some good tricks over the years if I do say so myself! Even if there is a problem, I can't get him to tell me. I even bought chocolate body paintonce and he just ate it on toast! Food excites him more than I do!
I have loads of sexy lingerie but he doesn't seem excited by it. I've suggested a bit of roleplay or bondage or some other games - but he says he's "not into that". I have tried to speak to him aboout the issue, aware that I need to be sensitive about it, but he always seems to find a way too change the subject, or laugh it off, or act like he doesn't get what I'm talking about.
I asked him what he would like to do in bed, but he just answered that what we do is fine. I have tried all sorts of things to address this: The situation now is that we hardly ever do it at all, which he seems unbothered by - he'd rather we spent time togethher watching films, or talking, or hanging out with other frieds - which is fine, but sometimes I crave phyical intimacy. once made him climax thrugh oral sex and he said that was "the first tim that's ever happened". He would get an erection without much trouble, but never seemd to "lose himself" like I'm used to guys doing, and he would never ejaculate inside me - he would always have to finish himself off by masturbating. But there is a real issue with sexual intimacy - I've been teling myself that it's a minor thing and I can deal with it, but the truth is that it's starting to become a problem.Įven when we first started seing each other We only had sex occasionally, it was always me that initiated it, and whilst we were doing it he honestly never seemed to be enjoying it that much. I have a wonderful, close and loving relationship with my current boyfriend. With my previous boyfriends we always did it at least a few times a week, they would never turn me down, would pester me for sex when I didn't want to - and they always seemed happy to be doing it. Compared to my previous relationships I've always found our sex life a little odd. We've been together nearly three years (I am 30, he is almost 40). I'm really hoping someone can give me some kind of input on a situation in my relationship that feel completely at a loss about.